Comments on: American Cliche #235

By: Scott

Scott — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 17:49:51 +0000

Erika,

Agreed – dating sucks no matter what gender you are. In fact, Kim and I used to say years ago – after a night out watching bar pickups happen to other people – that we didn’t want to ever have to go through that again. Unfortunately, here we are.

I’m not in any rush to date at this point honestly, but it’s interesting to have the conversation with people that have gone/are going through it.

-S

By: Erika

Erika — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 17:42:45 +0000

My husband and I were discussing this point and debated which gender has it easier in the dating world post 30s. Of course, I said the men had it easier, that I wouldn’t be surprised if he ended up with a younger woman after we separated. And, of course, he disagreed because he feels that women have more of the power when a guy tries to talk to her. Our final conclusion: dating is a pain, no matter the gender! I guess unless you are Robert Duvall (his wife is 40 YEARS younger than him!!!), I’m sure the men have it just as hard as we woman perceive we have it.

I have know some people that have had some success with online dating. The other thing that I haven’t seen mentioned is interest, meet up groups. Meetup dot com has many interest groups in many areas of the country. Or maybe there are a few interest groups are in your local paper. I would think that striking up a conversation is easier since you know that you both have at least ONE thing in common.

By: Scott

Scott — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 17:30:17 +0000

Jeff – Thanks for your comment. I’m sure all will resolve. Right now there is a lot of uncertainty in my life and that is hard. I’m the kind of person that needs an anchor – whether it be my marriage or career – and I don’t have that. I do have Emma though and I’m so grateful for that.

Evenderfunk – yeah freelancing definitely has it’s benefits, but I find it stressful. I guess we’ll see how it all shakes out.

-S

By: evanderfunk

evanderfunk — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 19:06:28 +0000

just finding out you’re freelancing now, and how that changes the whole “three-day-weekend” situation… I know exactly what you mean, I’m a freelancer as well, and it’s funny how holidays suddenly don’t exist anymore

on the other hand, you get to organize your own time (even if sometimes it’s 12-hour workshifts) and you know, you also allow yourself the occasional “screw everything I’m going to the movies/beach/park/whatever today” day… I’ve been freelancing for about two and a half years, and I’m not gonna lie, it sometimes gets pretty complicated money-wise, but I still think it’s worth it, so good luck with that!

great show, as usual
big hug from Mexico

By: Jeff S

Jeff S — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 04:31:29 +0000

Dating,

Ugh! No advice here. But I was divorced from a wonderful woman around 10 years ago. A very sad event. Dating seemed a loathsome idea. The apprehension, the interview, the end of the date. Aaaak!!!

So Here is what I did… nothing.
I figured that I would let life flow (Thanks LaoTzu).

It wasn’t that I was interested in a spiritual resolve.
But the flow worked out well.

Guess what? A very cool woman returned to my life.

My kids call her “Evil step-mom” when they hug talk to her on the phone. Heh heh.

SP–all will resolve. Here is why.

You are an interesting fellow.

Cool?